Jamberry Leadership: What NOT to do

A very special thanks to Debbie Bird for this heartfelt and honest list!  This was shared in our Executive coaching group, but many of the concepts can be applied from day 1 as a new leader with your first team member!

• Don't assume they "get it". Even when their WHY is to make $100,000 a year don't assume they will work for it or even grasp the effort it will take to get there.
•  Never assume they will train their teams.
•  Never assume they will not quit without ever telling you.
•  Don't make excuses for them to their downline. The downline sees thru that immediately.
•  --->>>> Don't "kick them out of the nest" till they hit Exec.
•  Don't let them think they are the engine that drives their train... Because when they quit working the whole train goes off the track.
•  Don't be "afraid of stepping on their toes" by talking to their team.
•  Don't assume they know time management.
•  Don't assume they know how to use a planner.
•  Don't endorse when they join another DS company.
•  Don't let gossip and bickering fester...nip it in the bud ASAP!
•  Don't assume they read the dashboard.
•  Don't assume they wear Jamberry.
•  Don't NOT call every new girl in your downline and introduce yourself because you ASSUME your TM's would do it.
•  Do not leave them and their teams out of every single training you hold. I do training for my entire DL twice a month. It takes no extra time to train several hundred or a dozen.
•  Do not reinvent the wheel. Do the same training every 3 months. With the emphasis on recruiting 1st, booking 2nd, fast start 3rd and sales 4th.
•  Don't be intimidated to confront them out when you see behavior damaging their team. {like belonging to 2-3 other DS companies or negative social media posting}
•  Don't ever assume they will be back if they are taking a "little break".
•  Don't think you don't have something to offer them because they have more DS experience or are better in an area than you {like recruiting or sales}
•  Don't talk yourself out of coaching them because you think you can't do anymore for them. Your voice is what they need most. Most often what you say is only half as important.
•  Don't let your personal feelings for the leader get in the way of your professional relationship
•  Don't cuss them.
•  Don't ignore them.
•  Don't called them names or belittle them.
•  Don't embarrass them in front of their team.
•  Don't tell them they need to quit because their team would be better off with you.
•  Don't get drunk with them and then expect respect.
•  Don't lie to them. They are adults. And lying to them says you think they are stupid. They aren't stupid.
•  Don't assume other leaders won't go behind your back and tell a TM what you said about them when you thought you were talking in confidence.
•  Don't think your issues and theirs are the same. 1:4 women in DS have PTSD from some time of sexual abuse. That means their coping skills can be very poor.
•  Don't think they have the same drive you do. Regardless of their words. Only trust action.
•  Don't lend them money.
•  Don't forget to include their spouse when you are celebrating them.
•  Don't forget to celebrate them often.
•  Don't assume they know how to celebrate success.
•  Don't assume they know what feeling accomplished feels like. You may have to tell them to stay present and feel good about how far they have come.
•  Don't let them not have a long term life goal and not know how Jamberry is a part of it.
•  Don't assume they know the resources available.
•  Don't be afraid to pull in a mediator for conflicts.
•  Don't stand for emotional or verbal abuse.
•  Don't allow them to bully you or others.
•  Don't feel like you are just using them to get your rank. You are helping them achieve their goal.
•  Don't let your thoughts get consumed with how bad it might get and forget to stay hopeful about how awesome it will be.
•  Don't avoid levels 4 and below and assume someone is helping them.
•  Don't stop asking them to share what they are best at... Set them up to share and train and let them see they are making a difference.
•  Don't accept second best. Remind them that they are worth their best and want the same from their kids.
•  Don't forget to know their kids.
•  Don't forget to include their husbands/boyfriends/partners in celebrations.